It's Different for Men, Part 4

Men and women often seem to speak different languages.  Men are more likely to approach a problem in a direct and pragmatic manner and in certain situations that is exactly what is needed.  Women more frequently will assume the role of listener and comforter in similar circumstances allowing the individual to reach their own conclusions or gently guiding their path.  Each individual and situation remains unique in the avenue it takes to reach a resolution.          

Over this past weekend, my Dad had the opportunity to talk with Joey, a member of the community who had the same diagnosis he currently does, has gone through a similar surgery and is coping successfully with the lifestyle changes the surgery entailed.  They spoke privately; the conversation was not long or intense but at its conclusion my Dad felt a sense of camaraderie and relief.  Joey is a “having-been-there” caregiver.   Many times there is no better teacher than one who has walked the same path and can share their experiences honestly and constructively with others.  

This experience reminded me that I have spent many hours teaching and supporting individuals and caregivers in learning new skills.  As a nurse, I have reinforced the instructions already given to my father.  As a daughter, I have listened and reassured my father when questions and doubts have arisen.   Yet, it was Joey who spoke the language Dad needed most to hear-- the voice of one who has walked the same path, stumbled over similar obstacles and is there to reach out to another in need.

Thank you Joey.